[meson] introduce lockless memory order and rename lockless option

The lockless algorithm can now be configured by setting -Dio_lockless_cq=true
and the used memory ordering by setting -Dio_lockless_memory_order={weak,strong}.

io_lockless_memory_order=weak:
    read with acquire
    write with release

io_lockless_memory_order=strong:
    read with seq_cst
    write with seq_cst