This change introduces a new synchronization primitive "PseudoCountingTryLock"
which takes an actual lock as template and provides a CountingTryLock interface.
By using a PseudoCountingTryLock we don't have to change any synchronization
code in IoContext::reapCompletion.

Since all PseudoCountingTryLock code is defined in a header the compiler
should see our constant return values and hopefully optimize away any check
depending on those constant return values.

Options:
* spin_lock - naive CAS spin lock
* mutex - std::mutex
* counting_try_lock (default) - our own lightweight special
                                purpose synchronization primitive